Janet Schlarbaum, Mark Schlarbaum Life Inspiration

By Gary Gzik
Article posted by Janet Schlarbaum

Anxiously, you prepare to write the last sentence in your “success journal.” Looking back over the past year, you have completed all of your goals. Astonished – you have never felt as successful in your life. You managed to lose 15 lbs, take the kids to Disney World, and successfully start your own home-based business. It had seemed like a long-haul at the time, but looking back as you make your final reflection, it seems more like an adventure.

Now, with such accomplishments at hand – you ask yourself, “Do I really need self motivation”? You look down at your journal, as it has travelled with you throughout your past goals. You realize it is time to move on to new goals, and perhaps a new journal. But, will you be taking self motivation with you?

At the moment, it seems as if things in your life have been happening the way you wanted them too, and as though self-motivation was not to credit, at least not right now. But, even with things going your way, you can still easily and quickly run out of enthusiasm and motivation. And, for these times, you won’t only need your success journal; you may also need a little self-help.

So, as you move forward onto next year’s goals, by following these few simple steps, you can continue to keep your journal by your side and stay motivated.

1. Stay in good company. To stay motivated it is essential and important to surround yourself with positive people in order to keep a spirit of happiness alive. Who you spend your time with will impact your motivation and your self-confidence. Try to regularly interact with “Yes” people. People who stay positive and motivated, never dwelling on the tasks at hand – rather challenging themselves as they move forward. If you’ve noticed your current group of friends are lacking in this area, don’t trade them in just yet. Try a new activity through the week, join a local sports league, chat with others online or volunteer with a local group. Choose anything that you are interested in or lifts your spirits, chances are, those people are there for a positive social hour as well as the activity.

2. Learn something new. Learning is a continuous process, which few of us actually adhere to. Every time we learn something new, we feed our motivation because we have increased our talent and knowledge, keeping our self-confidence level high.

3. Keep your positive attitude. A positive attitude means a positive mind. Condition yourself to focus on the good in every situation, even when obstacles present themselves. This is an excellent way to stay on track of self motivation.

4. Move on. Don’t get stuck in the moment. It’s hard not to fall into negativity, especially when you’re working on a project or dealing with issues and, all of sudden, obstacles start to occur and you can’t seem to move forward. When this occurs, shift your focus and approach the situation in a different angle. Suddenly, you will notice a different attitude and how everything starts to flow the way you anticipated it too before the obstacle – realizing self motivation has started to set in once again.

5. Write down your feelings. You may be tracking your goals and steps in your success journal, but are you tracking your feeling as well. This is very useful, especially when you are having bouts of sulkiness. Simply grab your journal, write down how you are feeling – and the reason you’re feeling the way you are. Do the same, even when you are feeling sheer happiness. This will allow you to recognize any patterns through your journal recordings, which will help you to decipher your emotions – what brings you sadness and what brings you happiness.

6. Track your progress. Okay, I know you’re already doing this with your journal. But, did you know that we mostly measure our successes and not the times we feel self-motivation. Use your journal to record these moments as well. Also, on days when you are feeling low, browse through your progress to be reminded of your accomplishments, and quickly start feeling better again, as you continue the cycle of completing a goal.

7. Share. Not only is sharing a good thing, it’s also a sure shot way to get motivated. When you know you were able to contribute even in the slightest way possible, you will definitely feel motivated to do better. Sharing ideas and feelings, or even motivating a friend who is feeling low, will quickly increase your self confidence.

By Fritz Ian N. Itum

How to Develop Your Personality

Oftentimes, whenever most of our doubts, concerns and various insecurities encapsulate ourselves, most of us will arrive with these thought of “I wish I was someone else.” A lot more often as compared to what, many of us think and sense that someone or rather, most people tend to be better compared to us. When the truth is, most of them happen to be a lot more worried compared to us.

When you see an eye-catching lady, sitting down by herself at some sort of celebration while casually sipping on a glass of cocktail. By yourself you think that she seems to be absolutely calm and confident. However, in the event that a person could possibly read through the woman’s mind, you would likely notice some sort of bunch of thoughts and also you might probably be surprised why she’s thinking about “is everyone thinking about the reason I’m sitting right here alone? Why do guys find me not attractive? I wish I am as beautiful and sexy as my best friend.”

Isn’t that crazy? Most of us look more at other people today, sometimes we get jealous of them for being ideal and also desire if we could exchange place with them, whilst these people look at us and also think the same way. Most of us tend to be insecure with many other people who by themselves happen to be insecure from us also. Most people experience from low self-esteem, don’t have self-confidence as well as lose desire with improving one’s self because of we are enveloped in desperation.

At times, a person finds himself that he or she has an annoying habit such as biting one’s own fingernails, having a foul mouth, and also – apart from all the people, you were the last to know.

I have this pal who never gets tired of talking. And mostly in discussions, she is actually the only person who appears to be interested with the things she is talking. Thus most of our other pals are likely to avoid the circles whenever she is around, not to mention that this lady doesn’t really notice exactly how poorly the lady started to be socially handicapped and slowly affecting all the people around her surroundings.

One particular key element towards self improvement is normally to pay attention along with a discussion from a reliable buddy whom you’ve known for quiet a period of time. Try finding someone who can understand you and whom you are comfortable in opening up with those gentle issues you would like to discuss. Try to ask questions such as “do you think I am ill-mannered?”, “Do I always appear to be argumentative?”, “How do I talk? Do I talk too loud?”, “Does my breath smell?”, “Do you feel boring when are together?” In this kind of approach, the other person obviously understands that you really are serious about self improvement. Lend to her your ears with regard to feedback as well as criticisms and also do not tell her like “Don’t exaggerate! That is just my way or that is who really I am!” Open up your mind and heart as well. And also in return, you might choose to help your pal along with constructive criticism which will also aid to improve her.

One particular song says “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” True enough. In order to love other people, a person must love your own self as well. Keep in mind; a person can’t share whatever she does not possess.

Just before telling other people a few tips about how to develop their personality, ask these people to take a look yourself as a representation and the end product of personal improvement. Personal development creates much better individuals; most of us then encourage other individuals, as well as the rest of the world will follow.

Quit considering yourself like a second rate human beings. Ignore those repetitive thought of “If only I was richer, if only I have these things, if only I am more intelligent or if only I was sexy” and so on. Acknowledging and being true to your self is the first step to self improvement. We all need to stop comparing ourselves towards other people, only to find at the end that we’ve got several factors to envy them.

Most of us have our own various insecurities. No one is actually perfect. Most of us usually desire we got better things, much better characteristics, much better physique, etc. However living need not necessarily to be perfect for people to be happy about themselves. Personal development along with loving yourself isn’t a matter of yelling to the entire world that you’re the best.

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 10 Ways to Build Your Self Confidence

By: K Lowe
Your level of self-confidence plays a role in every aspect of your life. It determines whether you succeed or fail. It determines whether relationships succeed or fail – or even ever get started. It determines the work that you will do throughout your life, the social relationships that you will build, the hobbies that you will pursue, and so much more. Here are ten ways to help you build your self confidence, starting today.

1. Start by realizing that you do have an issue with your self-confidence. Fully explore it. Try to figure out what triggered it. This is easier for some than for others, and it can be painful – but it is the necessary first step. Often, self confidence can reappear when we understand what caused the issue, and we have the benefit of time or distance to put things in better perspective.

2. Accept yourself for who you are. This is also easier for some than for others. For reasons beyond us, we learn – somewhere in life – that we are supposed to constantly try to be better than we actually are, and to feel bad about it if we are not. Realize that while everyone has room for improvement, if we were all perfect, the world would be an absolutely boring place.

3. Examine the people in your life. Are there those that tear you down – even if they do it nicely? If so, they’ve got to go! Simply limit their access to you – and to your self confidence, if you cannot remove these negative people from your life altogether.

4. Make a list of all of your positives. This can be achievements, a winning personality, a special skill or ability – anything that is positive. Write it down and feel great about it.

5. Really take a look at your physical self. Many self confidence issues stem from feeling like you don’t look as good as you could, or as good as you should, or as good as the other people around you. Hopefully, as you’ve aged, you’ve learned that what’s on the outside isn’t nearly as important as what is on the inside. If not, it’s time that you learned that. If you have already figured this little tidbit out, realize that other people have also figured it out for the most part, and that few people will judge you on your physical appearance – as long as you are clean and tidy. Besides that, you probably look better than you think you do – most people do.

6. Realize that life’s not all about you. Everybody isn’t staring at you. Everybody isn’t talking about you. Everyone is busy with their own lives, trying to make it through this world. If you doubt that, try volunteering. Not only is this a great way to improve your community and your world, while making life better or easier for others, it’s also a great way to start being thankful for what you have in life – and for building self confidence.

7. Identify activities, skills, or talents that will make you feel better about yourself. Maybe you don’t feel that you are completely qualified for your job – or for a job that you want. You should be learning throughout your lifetime – and taking classes to build skills and talents is a great way to build self confidence. You could even learn a new hobby.

8. Keep a positive attitude. Many people don’t realize that a positive attitude plays a role in building ones self-confidence, but it does. When you keep a positive frame of mind, positive things happen in your life – and when this happens, it boosts your self confidence without you even realizing it happened.

9. Use affirmations. Affirmations are good for lots of things. They can help you to reach a goal, but they can also help you to see what a special person you really are. Each person on this planet has something special about them – and that includes you.

10. Learn self-hypnosis. The absolute best and fastest way to build self-confidence is through hypnosis. Somewhere, something in life zapped your level of self-confidence, without you even realizing that it happened. Hypnosis works in the opposite manner, so to speak. It subconsciously gives you your self confidence back.

Remember that self confidence affects all areas of your life. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that it doesn’t matter, or that you don’t have time to think about it. The quality of your life depends on it.

Janet Schlarbaum Self Confidence

 How to Improve Yourself Through Personal Development!

By Steve Betsworth

The reason you are reading this is because you want to be better than you are and this is not only an admirable objective but a natural one: evolution states that we should try to improve and this extends to every area of our lives, from relationships at home to our performance at work. To foster improvements in our self, we need to identify areas that require change, and for this we need self-reflection and inner consideration of our strengths and weaknesses.

Life is about goals and success is often seen as achieving those goals, so we can analyze in a little more detail what kinds of goals we should be setting and how we should go about identifying them. Goals must first and foremost be: achievable, realistic, preferably tangible and measurable. Without fulfilling these golden rules of goal setting you will not be able to feel or measure the success you are aiming for.

You can set goals for anything in life, and there is an industry out there for most aspects of life you might be interested in changing, be it smoking, weight loss, fitness, and so the list goes on. Here we are interested in a general self-development agenda that ensures you’re whole well being is improved, your self-esteem, self-confidence, professional knowledge – and by focusing on all these aspects, you can gain success in whatever aspect of life you choose to apply your self to. One guideline is true of all self-development literature and programs, the process is not a passive one, but a very active one – do not rely on others to improve your success, you must take responsibility for yourself and your own actions.

It can be problematic to only focus one area of life as issues do not usually arise in isolation. If weight loss is your focus, then the issue might not be to focus on diet, but to focus on exercise, or increasing your self-esteem. So look at issues with an open mind and be prepared to change any aspect of life to influence another area.

You are the person responsible for self-development, which is why it is ’self-development’ and not another person developing you. 95% of the population does not reach its potential, and that is a lot of people who do not have the required discipline to carry out a full program of self-development. The first stage here is to recognize that to become successful will take work, and self discipline.

You’ve read lots of self-help and self-development literature and it all makes sense, but it is confusing as to how it literally applies to you and where you should start, this is not abnormal, don’t worry. The answer lies in the list of self-reflection; putting down on paper those aspect of life, in detail and not broad terms, that which you wish to change, and from there you can move on with a plan.

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By Brian Turk

In today’s society nothing stays the same for too long. With the ever changing technology and skill sets that are required today, in order to be successful, or have any kind of success you will need to cope with change on a regular basis. What exactly does this mean? This means that you must have current up to date skills, and adapt appropriately to change.

Years ago, many people had the same job or career most of their entire life. This was normal back then, and people were able to get away with this. Nowadays things have changed, and with the never ending cut backs or layoffs that most corporations incur over your lifespan, you will need to stay fresh with new skills. This will keep you sharp and marketable in any downturn, or economic shift.

It will take initiative and dedication on your part, but when you are currently employed this is the time to invest in yourself. This is when you want to take immediate action and develop your skills. In order to do this you will go through a change, which could mean a change with learning new things, change with how you think about certain things, and a change on how you do things in life. Many people are reluctant to change, and would rather have things stay the same. This is do to the fact that most people get comfortable, when doing the same thing all of the time. You will need to take a different approach and learn to get comfortable with discomfort.

First things first, you will need to change your mindset and how you look at certain things. Remember this very important concept that I am going to share with you. “If you aren’t growing, than you are dying”. This holds true to almost everything in life. Think about it, if you are not growing you are dying. The body and mind need growth in order to stay alive, sometimes also known as keeping ourselves going. You have to have a desire and need in life, or you will just be their physically, but not mentally.

In conclusion, you should want to grow as a person and deal with change as it comes. Don’t shy away from change, or challenges. Look at this as an opportunity to learn something new, or an opportunity to grow to the next level. In the end you will be glad that you did, since you are now proactive instead of reactive.

By Steve Hill
It took me a long time to realise the benefits of positive thinking. I had often heard people mention that if you think positive, positive things will happen to you, I used to think they were a bit weird. I now believe they were right and this article explains why.

Growing up through the difficult teenage years and into my early twenties, I felt very sorry for myself. I used to think I was the most unluckiest person in the world. I had a bald patch the size of a ten pence piece on my head, a speech impediment(stutter), I was overweight to the point of being fat, and was short for a male(5ft4).

I believed that I received more mickey taking out of me than anyone else, and life was certainly a struggle. To meet members of the opposite sex when you have a lack of confidence and a speech impediment is not easy. To gain work, order drinks, socialise in general, these were all difficult for me. Everyone else seemingly breezed and eased there way through life.

One day I was at work and a colleague of mine who was about thirty years older than me, commented that I was a very depressive person. I disagreed with him and was quite shocked, I believed that most people worried and stressed about things. He went on by stating that I was always negative about most things in life, always moaning about this or that and very rarely smiled. He went on to say that he had used to be like me, always depressed, moody and stressed until he was given some advice when he was aged thirty. He then proceeded to give me the same advice.

THE ADVICE:

When you feel down, depressed and sorry for yourself, watch the news and read the newspapers and you will see that there are many people worse off than you, and that you are actually one of the lucky ones.

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By: Daegan Smith
Society dictates that life is only successful if you have wealth and fame. Manifested through media, pop culture and common perceptions, directly or indirectly, society equates success only with the economics of life as if that this is the only ground where a person evolves.

Liberal thinking says that life can simply be spelled as satisfaction. If you feel healthy, contented, happy, and fulfilled but not exactly wealthy, nobody can just say that you are not successful in life. You felt and dealt with your life exactly the way you wanted it because you are in total control and this satisfies your existence.

If you can only think as positively as this, you are assured of a clearer way in the future. But like many other endeavors, there are no straight roads only rocky roads with holes. There is no promise of immediate grandeur. You have to work your way towards satisfaction. It is not a sweet fruit on the tree ready to be picked. But, there is no cause for worry because maps and guides are provided for you to cling on as you take your journey to ultimate satisfaction in life.

Foresight to a successful life is evident in your philosophies, principles and attitudes. Being positive all throughout these encompassing aspects of your life opens your chances to a satisfying life. See the road map on how to get there.

Positive philosophy is essential to these life’s major components:

1. Health: physical, emotional and spiritual

2. Activities: vocation and leisure

3. Communication: social interactions and sensing the world

4. Knowledge

5. Attitude

Road no. 1: Move towards a healthy lifestyle. This is your first route to a satisfying life. Your guide:

Physical

• Be active – sporty.

• Eat right.

• Minimize dependency to medical processes.

Emotional

• Manage stress well.

• Awareness to your feelings.

• Be thankful to the talents you possess.

Spiritual

• Learn to forgive.

• Be curious.

• Be at peace with anyone and yourself.

Road no. 2 – Go forward worthwhile activities. Your guide:

• Discover your purpose.

• Help others.

• Be concerned about the future generations.

Road no. 3 – Explore the world and reveal the treasures in the areas of communication. Your guide:

Sensing the world and be satisfied.

• Look and observe.

• Stay curious.

• Be multi-sensorial.

Social interactions

• Respect people.

• Give others a chance to shine.

• Live for today.

Road no. 4 – Step forward to the world of knowledge and intellect. Your guide:

• Think carefully and mindfully.

• Cultivate your creativity.

• Be open to continuous growth and development.

Road no. 5 – Go straight ahead to heaven of life with a positive attitude. Your guide:

• Enjoy life.

• Be responsible for your own well-being.

• Take care of your whole person – body, mind and spirit.

Knowing the roads to a satisfying life, there are two very significant things left for you to find out. This will help light your way by:

1. Examining yourself of who you really want to become. This will become your vehicle towards the successful life road map. You will be guided by who you really are and discard those that you think fails and thwarts you.

2. Evaluate. What is it that you really want to achieve? This will pedal you in the right directions towards a satisfying life. Know what you love doing and find your needs and fill them in. The guides in the map will help you find your way.

Knowing yourself thoroughly and by following these directions will lead you to the Utopia of success that is a satisfying life.

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By: T Ryan
Do you have a low self-confidence? Is it holding you back from being and doing the things you really want in life? Do you frustrate yourself when you don’t feel like you can really go for it? If so then here are seven top tips for boosting your self-confidence whenever and where ever you may be. Here they are:

Regardless of your current feelings view yourself in your minds eye in the situation you wish to be in. If you are worried about starting a new job then see yourself walking into the office on the first day happy and confident walking up-right with positive body language. If you are striving for success on the sports field then run a short movie clip through your mind of how you wish the game to be. At the beginning of a game you can visualise how you will make the first tackle or how you will go around the goal keeper and so on. Doing so really helps build your self-confidence as you can actually see yourself getting the required results.

If as inevitably happens a negative thoughts enters your mind and starts to drag you down and of course it is bound to happen at some point, then deliberately and consciously release it. You can do this by simply moving on to the next more positive thought or if you find this difficult you may wish to place a photo of a favourite place, person or thing in your wallet which you can take a quick glance at which can then immediately stimulate positive thoughts and feelings just like flicking a switch.

If you are facing a problem rather than focussing on the problem itself focus on the tools or positive things that you have at your disposal to overcome the problem. Make a list of the positive assets that you have going for you however small you may deem them to be and bear in mind that: ‘If you think you can, you can’

Get a grip of yourself. It is easy to build a problem up to be much greater than it really is through our own fear and worry. You may find it useful to actually write the problem down, doing so can often help put it into perspective and remove a ot of the worry immediately.

Some people find it useful to memorise a few affirmations that they can repeat to themselves for inspiration when they are struggling for self-confidence. repeating affirmations focussing on what the words mean and not just mindlessly repeating them can help inject positivity into your actions immediately.

Realise you are greater being than you probably think you are. Take a look now and assess your strong points, your skills and abilities. Once you have done this then add another 20% onto what you previously thought you were capable of for we all know that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts, why should this be any less true for you or I?

If you have any belief in a higher power, God, or whomever relax and remember that their love is surrounding you, guiding you and providing you with opportunities which ever way you look. Allow the power and feeling of security to flow through you and feel it build up inside you and raise your self-confidence.

So, there you have seven quick tips to boost your self-confidence. Try and make it a habit to use the above techniques as often as possible, doing so will help your mind naturally on its own ooze with positive thoughts creating a self-perpetuating cycle of positive thoughts.

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By Rebecca Osborn

Personal Development – Why do you need to bother developing as a person? It’s hard work, but to reach your greatness you have to be continually developing as a person.

What Is Personal Development:
It is continually putting yourself in a position where you are going to be challenged and motivated to dig deeper and reach higher to maximise yourself as a person. It is taking control of your personal growth and forcing yourself not to stay still and become stagnant, but to move toward greatness and better yourself and therefore your future.

How Do I Develop Myself As A Person?
There are so many ways! Here are a few!

- Begin to read! There are hundreds of books available on personal development. You can buy them online, borrow them from a friend, or even rent them from your local library.

- Sign up online for inspirational e courses. Most of these are free and you will receive a motivational email once a week or more often depending.

- Take a course. If there are things that you would like to do, but you are not qualified, take a course in it. It may just be once a week, but you are developing yourself as a person and putting yourself in a position to be challenged.

These are just simple ways that you can begin to apply to your life today to begin to develop yourself. In doing so you are growing yourself as a person and moving toward reaching your greatness. Do not give up! Keep at it!

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 By Susan Velez

Do you have a barrier to personal growth development? Believe it or not we all have barriers that hold us back in life.

The biggest challenge is finding your barrier to personal growth development and learning how to overcome them.

How do we take an honest look at ourselves and find our flaws that we can improve on? Our ego likes us to believe that we have no faults, and everything is great. It is scared of change and will do everything in its power to keep you comfortable.

The best way to find your barriers to personal development growth is to judge yourself as if your were judging one of your friends.

We can all be honest with a friend when they ask us a specific question for example: Why do I keep attracting the same kind of person who is inconsiderate and always ends up walking away from the relationship?

We can be honest and let our friend know what they should do and what they should change.

So next time you are attempting to figure out your barrier to personal growth development, Look at your life from the outside and pretend you are looking at someone else’s life.

You will then be able to understand what your barriers are.

Once you discover your obstacles you can begin to utilize personal development to begin breaking down these barriers, and begin getting the results you would love to receive. One important thing to remember when working on breaking down your barriers, is that old habits are hard to break.

The more often you work on your personal development and begin applying the techniques to your life; you will begin to
notice changes in your life. You will begin to notice the barriers will become smaller and less noticeable. Eventually
before you realize it; you will no longer possess any barriers to personal growth development.

Things in your life will run more smoothly, you will begin to look at life more positively. You will also begin to attract
more positive people and events, who will help you reach your goals.

What exactly does this mean? “People will be attracted to me and help me reach my goals?

Well as you begin using the personal development principles in your life. You will begin utilizing the law of attraction.
You will also begin to attract other people who act and think like you do. They are attracted to your vibrations that you
are sending out.

As you begin utilizing affirmations, visualization, and meditation; these techniques will quickly break down your barrier
to personal growth development. Yes they are free to apply to your life and anyone can learn how to do it easily.

Do you find all of this crazy and hard to believe?

Well if you desire to be successful in some area of your life: then start your personal development journey. Begin
implementing these techniques one by one. Be honest with yourself to find out what your limiting beliefs are. (Yes you
probably do have some.)

Then set a 30 day goal of what you would like to be do have; and begin using the principles we talked about. As you
begin breaking down your barriers to personal development growth you will find yourself achieving your goal that you
set for yourself.

Give it a try; explore the principles of personal development by investing in a program that will help you learn more about personal development. See for yourself how your life will dramatically change and how you can be do have anything you desire.