Janet Schlarbaum, Mark Schlarbaum Life Inspiration

By Gary Gzik
Article posted by Janet Schlarbaum

Anxiously, you prepare to write the last sentence in your “success journal.” Looking back over the past year, you have completed all of your goals. Astonished – you have never felt as successful in your life. You managed to lose 15 lbs, take the kids to Disney World, and successfully start your own home-based business. It had seemed like a long-haul at the time, but looking back as you make your final reflection, it seems more like an adventure.

Now, with such accomplishments at hand – you ask yourself, “Do I really need self motivation”? You look down at your journal, as it has travelled with you throughout your past goals. You realize it is time to move on to new goals, and perhaps a new journal. But, will you be taking self motivation with you?

At the moment, it seems as if things in your life have been happening the way you wanted them too, and as though self-motivation was not to credit, at least not right now. But, even with things going your way, you can still easily and quickly run out of enthusiasm and motivation. And, for these times, you won’t only need your success journal; you may also need a little self-help.

So, as you move forward onto next year’s goals, by following these few simple steps, you can continue to keep your journal by your side and stay motivated.

1. Stay in good company. To stay motivated it is essential and important to surround yourself with positive people in order to keep a spirit of happiness alive. Who you spend your time with will impact your motivation and your self-confidence. Try to regularly interact with “Yes” people. People who stay positive and motivated, never dwelling on the tasks at hand – rather challenging themselves as they move forward. If you’ve noticed your current group of friends are lacking in this area, don’t trade them in just yet. Try a new activity through the week, join a local sports league, chat with others online or volunteer with a local group. Choose anything that you are interested in or lifts your spirits, chances are, those people are there for a positive social hour as well as the activity.

2. Learn something new. Learning is a continuous process, which few of us actually adhere to. Every time we learn something new, we feed our motivation because we have increased our talent and knowledge, keeping our self-confidence level high.

3. Keep your positive attitude. A positive attitude means a positive mind. Condition yourself to focus on the good in every situation, even when obstacles present themselves. This is an excellent way to stay on track of self motivation.

4. Move on. Don’t get stuck in the moment. It’s hard not to fall into negativity, especially when you’re working on a project or dealing with issues and, all of sudden, obstacles start to occur and you can’t seem to move forward. When this occurs, shift your focus and approach the situation in a different angle. Suddenly, you will notice a different attitude and how everything starts to flow the way you anticipated it too before the obstacle – realizing self motivation has started to set in once again.

5. Write down your feelings. You may be tracking your goals and steps in your success journal, but are you tracking your feeling as well. This is very useful, especially when you are having bouts of sulkiness. Simply grab your journal, write down how you are feeling – and the reason you’re feeling the way you are. Do the same, even when you are feeling sheer happiness. This will allow you to recognize any patterns through your journal recordings, which will help you to decipher your emotions – what brings you sadness and what brings you happiness.

6. Track your progress. Okay, I know you’re already doing this with your journal. But, did you know that we mostly measure our successes and not the times we feel self-motivation. Use your journal to record these moments as well. Also, on days when you are feeling low, browse through your progress to be reminded of your accomplishments, and quickly start feeling better again, as you continue the cycle of completing a goal.

7. Share. Not only is sharing a good thing, it’s also a sure shot way to get motivated. When you know you were able to contribute even in the slightest way possible, you will definitely feel motivated to do better. Sharing ideas and feelings, or even motivating a friend who is feeling low, will quickly increase your self confidence.

By Fritz Ian N. Itum

How to Develop Your Personality

Oftentimes, whenever most of our doubts, concerns and various insecurities encapsulate ourselves, most of us will arrive with these thought of “I wish I was someone else.” A lot more often as compared to what, many of us think and sense that someone or rather, most people tend to be better compared to us. When the truth is, most of them happen to be a lot more worried compared to us.

When you see an eye-catching lady, sitting down by herself at some sort of celebration while casually sipping on a glass of cocktail. By yourself you think that she seems to be absolutely calm and confident. However, in the event that a person could possibly read through the woman’s mind, you would likely notice some sort of bunch of thoughts and also you might probably be surprised why she’s thinking about “is everyone thinking about the reason I’m sitting right here alone? Why do guys find me not attractive? I wish I am as beautiful and sexy as my best friend.”

Isn’t that crazy? Most of us look more at other people today, sometimes we get jealous of them for being ideal and also desire if we could exchange place with them, whilst these people look at us and also think the same way. Most of us tend to be insecure with many other people who by themselves happen to be insecure from us also. Most people experience from low self-esteem, don’t have self-confidence as well as lose desire with improving one’s self because of we are enveloped in desperation.

At times, a person finds himself that he or she has an annoying habit such as biting one’s own fingernails, having a foul mouth, and also – apart from all the people, you were the last to know.

I have this pal who never gets tired of talking. And mostly in discussions, she is actually the only person who appears to be interested with the things she is talking. Thus most of our other pals are likely to avoid the circles whenever she is around, not to mention that this lady doesn’t really notice exactly how poorly the lady started to be socially handicapped and slowly affecting all the people around her surroundings.

One particular key element towards self improvement is normally to pay attention along with a discussion from a reliable buddy whom you’ve known for quiet a period of time. Try finding someone who can understand you and whom you are comfortable in opening up with those gentle issues you would like to discuss. Try to ask questions such as “do you think I am ill-mannered?”, “Do I always appear to be argumentative?”, “How do I talk? Do I talk too loud?”, “Does my breath smell?”, “Do you feel boring when are together?” In this kind of approach, the other person obviously understands that you really are serious about self improvement. Lend to her your ears with regard to feedback as well as criticisms and also do not tell her like “Don’t exaggerate! That is just my way or that is who really I am!” Open up your mind and heart as well. And also in return, you might choose to help your pal along with constructive criticism which will also aid to improve her.

One particular song says “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” True enough. In order to love other people, a person must love your own self as well. Keep in mind; a person can’t share whatever she does not possess.

Just before telling other people a few tips about how to develop their personality, ask these people to take a look yourself as a representation and the end product of personal improvement. Personal development creates much better individuals; most of us then encourage other individuals, as well as the rest of the world will follow.

Quit considering yourself like a second rate human beings. Ignore those repetitive thought of “If only I was richer, if only I have these things, if only I am more intelligent or if only I was sexy” and so on. Acknowledging and being true to your self is the first step to self improvement. We all need to stop comparing ourselves towards other people, only to find at the end that we’ve got several factors to envy them.

Most of us have our own various insecurities. No one is actually perfect. Most of us usually desire we got better things, much better characteristics, much better physique, etc. However living need not necessarily to be perfect for people to be happy about themselves. Personal development along with loving yourself isn’t a matter of yelling to the entire world that you’re the best.

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