Janet Schlarbaum, Mark Schlarbaum Life Inspiration

 10 Ways to Build Your Self Confidence

By: K Lowe
Your level of self-confidence plays a role in every aspect of your life. It determines whether you succeed or fail. It determines whether relationships succeed or fail – or even ever get started. It determines the work that you will do throughout your life, the social relationships that you will build, the hobbies that you will pursue, and so much more. Here are ten ways to help you build your self confidence, starting today.

1. Start by realizing that you do have an issue with your self-confidence. Fully explore it. Try to figure out what triggered it. This is easier for some than for others, and it can be painful – but it is the necessary first step. Often, self confidence can reappear when we understand what caused the issue, and we have the benefit of time or distance to put things in better perspective.

2. Accept yourself for who you are. This is also easier for some than for others. For reasons beyond us, we learn – somewhere in life – that we are supposed to constantly try to be better than we actually are, and to feel bad about it if we are not. Realize that while everyone has room for improvement, if we were all perfect, the world would be an absolutely boring place.

3. Examine the people in your life. Are there those that tear you down – even if they do it nicely? If so, they’ve got to go! Simply limit their access to you – and to your self confidence, if you cannot remove these negative people from your life altogether.

4. Make a list of all of your positives. This can be achievements, a winning personality, a special skill or ability – anything that is positive. Write it down and feel great about it.

5. Really take a look at your physical self. Many self confidence issues stem from feeling like you don’t look as good as you could, or as good as you should, or as good as the other people around you. Hopefully, as you’ve aged, you’ve learned that what’s on the outside isn’t nearly as important as what is on the inside. If not, it’s time that you learned that. If you have already figured this little tidbit out, realize that other people have also figured it out for the most part, and that few people will judge you on your physical appearance – as long as you are clean and tidy. Besides that, you probably look better than you think you do – most people do.

6. Realize that life’s not all about you. Everybody isn’t staring at you. Everybody isn’t talking about you. Everyone is busy with their own lives, trying to make it through this world. If you doubt that, try volunteering. Not only is this a great way to improve your community and your world, while making life better or easier for others, it’s also a great way to start being thankful for what you have in life – and for building self confidence.

7. Identify activities, skills, or talents that will make you feel better about yourself. Maybe you don’t feel that you are completely qualified for your job – or for a job that you want. You should be learning throughout your lifetime – and taking classes to build skills and talents is a great way to build self confidence. You could even learn a new hobby.

8. Keep a positive attitude. Many people don’t realize that a positive attitude plays a role in building ones self-confidence, but it does. When you keep a positive frame of mind, positive things happen in your life – and when this happens, it boosts your self confidence without you even realizing it happened.

9. Use affirmations. Affirmations are good for lots of things. They can help you to reach a goal, but they can also help you to see what a special person you really are. Each person on this planet has something special about them – and that includes you.

10. Learn self-hypnosis. The absolute best and fastest way to build self-confidence is through hypnosis. Somewhere, something in life zapped your level of self-confidence, without you even realizing that it happened. Hypnosis works in the opposite manner, so to speak. It subconsciously gives you your self confidence back.

Remember that self confidence affects all areas of your life. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that it doesn’t matter, or that you don’t have time to think about it. The quality of your life depends on it.

Janet Schlarbaum Self Confidence

By Steve Hill
It took me a long time to realise the benefits of positive thinking. I had often heard people mention that if you think positive, positive things will happen to you, I used to think they were a bit weird. I now believe they were right and this article explains why.

Growing up through the difficult teenage years and into my early twenties, I felt very sorry for myself. I used to think I was the most unluckiest person in the world. I had a bald patch the size of a ten pence piece on my head, a speech impediment(stutter), I was overweight to the point of being fat, and was short for a male(5ft4).

I believed that I received more mickey taking out of me than anyone else, and life was certainly a struggle. To meet members of the opposite sex when you have a lack of confidence and a speech impediment is not easy. To gain work, order drinks, socialise in general, these were all difficult for me. Everyone else seemingly breezed and eased there way through life.

One day I was at work and a colleague of mine who was about thirty years older than me, commented that I was a very depressive person. I disagreed with him and was quite shocked, I believed that most people worried and stressed about things. He went on by stating that I was always negative about most things in life, always moaning about this or that and very rarely smiled. He went on to say that he had used to be like me, always depressed, moody and stressed until he was given some advice when he was aged thirty. He then proceeded to give me the same advice.

THE ADVICE:

When you feel down, depressed and sorry for yourself, watch the news and read the newspapers and you will see that there are many people worse off than you, and that you are actually one of the lucky ones.

Placed by Janet Schlarbaum

By: Daegan Smith
Society dictates that life is only successful if you have wealth and fame. Manifested through media, pop culture and common perceptions, directly or indirectly, society equates success only with the economics of life as if that this is the only ground where a person evolves.

Liberal thinking says that life can simply be spelled as satisfaction. If you feel healthy, contented, happy, and fulfilled but not exactly wealthy, nobody can just say that you are not successful in life. You felt and dealt with your life exactly the way you wanted it because you are in total control and this satisfies your existence.

If you can only think as positively as this, you are assured of a clearer way in the future. But like many other endeavors, there are no straight roads only rocky roads with holes. There is no promise of immediate grandeur. You have to work your way towards satisfaction. It is not a sweet fruit on the tree ready to be picked. But, there is no cause for worry because maps and guides are provided for you to cling on as you take your journey to ultimate satisfaction in life.

Foresight to a successful life is evident in your philosophies, principles and attitudes. Being positive all throughout these encompassing aspects of your life opens your chances to a satisfying life. See the road map on how to get there.

Positive philosophy is essential to these life’s major components:

1. Health: physical, emotional and spiritual

2. Activities: vocation and leisure

3. Communication: social interactions and sensing the world

4. Knowledge

5. Attitude

Road no. 1: Move towards a healthy lifestyle. This is your first route to a satisfying life. Your guide:

Physical

• Be active – sporty.

• Eat right.

• Minimize dependency to medical processes.

Emotional

• Manage stress well.

• Awareness to your feelings.

• Be thankful to the talents you possess.

Spiritual

• Learn to forgive.

• Be curious.

• Be at peace with anyone and yourself.

Road no. 2 – Go forward worthwhile activities. Your guide:

• Discover your purpose.

• Help others.

• Be concerned about the future generations.

Road no. 3 – Explore the world and reveal the treasures in the areas of communication. Your guide:

Sensing the world and be satisfied.

• Look and observe.

• Stay curious.

• Be multi-sensorial.

Social interactions

• Respect people.

• Give others a chance to shine.

• Live for today.

Road no. 4 – Step forward to the world of knowledge and intellect. Your guide:

• Think carefully and mindfully.

• Cultivate your creativity.

• Be open to continuous growth and development.

Road no. 5 – Go straight ahead to heaven of life with a positive attitude. Your guide:

• Enjoy life.

• Be responsible for your own well-being.

• Take care of your whole person – body, mind and spirit.

Knowing the roads to a satisfying life, there are two very significant things left for you to find out. This will help light your way by:

1. Examining yourself of who you really want to become. This will become your vehicle towards the successful life road map. You will be guided by who you really are and discard those that you think fails and thwarts you.

2. Evaluate. What is it that you really want to achieve? This will pedal you in the right directions towards a satisfying life. Know what you love doing and find your needs and fill them in. The guides in the map will help you find your way.

Knowing yourself thoroughly and by following these directions will lead you to the Utopia of success that is a satisfying life.

 Posted by Janet Schlarbaum Capital Management

By: T Ryan
Do you have a low self-confidence? Is it holding you back from being and doing the things you really want in life? Do you frustrate yourself when you don’t feel like you can really go for it? If so then here are seven top tips for boosting your self-confidence whenever and where ever you may be. Here they are:

Regardless of your current feelings view yourself in your minds eye in the situation you wish to be in. If you are worried about starting a new job then see yourself walking into the office on the first day happy and confident walking up-right with positive body language. If you are striving for success on the sports field then run a short movie clip through your mind of how you wish the game to be. At the beginning of a game you can visualise how you will make the first tackle or how you will go around the goal keeper and so on. Doing so really helps build your self-confidence as you can actually see yourself getting the required results.

If as inevitably happens a negative thoughts enters your mind and starts to drag you down and of course it is bound to happen at some point, then deliberately and consciously release it. You can do this by simply moving on to the next more positive thought or if you find this difficult you may wish to place a photo of a favourite place, person or thing in your wallet which you can take a quick glance at which can then immediately stimulate positive thoughts and feelings just like flicking a switch.

If you are facing a problem rather than focussing on the problem itself focus on the tools or positive things that you have at your disposal to overcome the problem. Make a list of the positive assets that you have going for you however small you may deem them to be and bear in mind that: ‘If you think you can, you can’

Get a grip of yourself. It is easy to build a problem up to be much greater than it really is through our own fear and worry. You may find it useful to actually write the problem down, doing so can often help put it into perspective and remove a ot of the worry immediately.

Some people find it useful to memorise a few affirmations that they can repeat to themselves for inspiration when they are struggling for self-confidence. repeating affirmations focussing on what the words mean and not just mindlessly repeating them can help inject positivity into your actions immediately.

Realise you are greater being than you probably think you are. Take a look now and assess your strong points, your skills and abilities. Once you have done this then add another 20% onto what you previously thought you were capable of for we all know that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts, why should this be any less true for you or I?

If you have any belief in a higher power, God, or whomever relax and remember that their love is surrounding you, guiding you and providing you with opportunities which ever way you look. Allow the power and feeling of security to flow through you and feel it build up inside you and raise your self-confidence.

So, there you have seven quick tips to boost your self-confidence. Try and make it a habit to use the above techniques as often as possible, doing so will help your mind naturally on its own ooze with positive thoughts creating a self-perpetuating cycle of positive thoughts.

Posted by Janet Schlarbaum Capital Management